I host direct as much as I can. First, when someone is disconnected, the game wait his reconnexion. Not like when you host through fumbbl, and play "in the void". You only detect the quitter when you wait for an answer, like that apo, which leads to cheating accusations.

Then when you get kicked, you can join back if you were client, as if nothing happend at all. Simple and elegant. Add to this the safer saves and why use proxies ?

However, I noticed that less and less people are able to create a direct IP game. And a only little more know how to connect ! Yarrrr, is that so difficult? Hey you don't want to be labelled as noobs, don't you?

Try harder next time!